My step daughter has a mother –in-law that if she doesn’t get her way, cries. She is socially demanding and condescending if she deems she is better than you..
I have only spent a little bit of time around her. However, in the 6 hours I spent with her over the holiday’s, she was able to turn my stepdaughter (sd) into tears within 15 minutes. She criticizes by saying “I have never heard of . . .” and won’t say anything to your face, but to those she can still intimidate.
Worse than that, she knows everything—just ask her. She makes everything a crisis UNLESS she is the center of attention. She is so afraid that someone will take advantage of their “social” or “financial” status that she turns most everything into a painful experience.
She also seems very insecure—won’t talk to me, at me occasionally but focuses entirely on her men—husband and son. She even thinks that my sd is now hers since she is married to her son. She wouldn’t even arrive for Christmas Eve, Christmas day because she did not want to share the limelight with anyone else. Her first excuse was she did not want to spend time with people she is not related to (which explains her disregard to me—I am not related to sd biologically so I am a “nothing.”). Next excuse was her other son would be alone for Christmas. That one seemed to stick since that was the popular one by the time I arrived at sd’s for Christmas.
Mean, manipulative and insecure—all three wrapped into one; add arrogance and snobbery and you get the picture of a sad lonely person. Actually she is a bully and why? I can only guess but that won’t answer the why, just lead to more whys.
I may be a mother-in-law but if I ever act like my sd’s someone give me a swift kick in the kiester and set me straight!
(I am fortunate to have a wonderful mother-in-law!)
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